Since the beginning of time (I assume) men have a hard time understanding the way women think, particularly when it came to more ‘intimate’ matters.
But I read something recently which finally put things into terms that I could understand and allowed me a peek into the strange world of women’s desires, and here it is…
Men view sex as a goal – a destination to be reached as quickly as possible and by the shortest route. Women, however, see sex as a journey – a set of experiences to be savored along the way. The destination is nice, but it is the journey that counts.
As an avid motorcyclist this was something I could totally relate to. Motorcycling is all about the journey. The destination (be it great ribs or a classic bike show) is, more often than not, just an excuse to get out and ride.
The same split can be seen in other activities too – take shopping as an example. Women will happily spend hours at the mall, completely immersing themselves in the entire retail experience. Men, on the other hand, “hunt shoes” – grabbing the first pair that fit the need, and heading home triumphant.
Sadly the introduction of children often makes it difficult to spend sufficient time on the journey – which no-doubt explains why many mothers find themselves in a state of low libido, and their husbands in a state of frustration.
But the first step to solving a problem is knowing what the problem is. Now that I finally get it I will be trying harder to focus on the journey, and I would suggest that you do the same too.
“Too often we are so preoccupied with the destination, we forget the journey.”~Unknown
Enjoy the journey!